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THE ART of KISSING:

A Beginners Guide;

The dictionary says that a kiss is "made by touching with the lips pressed closely together and suddenly parting them." From this it is quite obvious that, although the dictionary-may know something about words, it knows nothing about kissing.

Coleridge called a kiss, "nectar breathing." Shakespeare said that a kiss is a "seal of love." Martial, an old Roman poet who had ample opportunity to do research work on the subject, says that a kiss was "the fragrance of balsam extracted from aromatic trees; the rise odour yielded by the teeming saffron; the perfume of fruits mellowing in their winter buds; the flowery meadows in the summer; amber warmed by the hand of a girl; a bouquet of flowers that attracts the bees."

Others have said that a kiss was: the balm of love; the first and last of joys; love's language; the seal of bliss; love's tribute; the melting sip; the nectar of Venus; the language of love.

A kiss is all of these . . . and more.

Every kiss is different from the one before and the one after. just as no two people are alike, so are no two kisses alike. For it is people who make kisses. Real, live people pulsating with life and love and emotions.

A kiss is the union of two soul-mates who have come together because they were made for each other. The reason for this is that the kiss is really the introduction to love, true love. The kiss prepares the participants for the love life of the future. It is the foundation, the starting point of sexual love. And it is for that reason that the manner in which the kiss is performed is so vitally important.

The odour of a woman's hair can send shivers of joy coursing up and down a man's spine. The odour of her body can convulse him with throes of passion. Odours are as necessary to love as is love, itself. That is why it is so essential that the lips be parted just before the kiss. And that is why the breath should be kept always sweet and pure so that, when the lips art opened, the breath will be like an "aromatic breeze." Sometimes it is advisable for the lady to touch the corners of the mouth with perfume. But be certain that there is only the faintest suggestion of an odour and no more. Another thing, lipstick is definitely out in the kiss, because it comes off so readily. A very light coat of lipstick should be worn so that, when it does come off, it will not serve to betray you. Similarly, the teeth should be kept clean as nothing can dampen a man or a woman's ardor, than a row of brown-stained teeth.

KISSING TECHNIQUES:

Assuming you are sat together on the sofa, let your nose wander to the top of the head and gently nuzzle it into the hair. Say that the hair smells like a garden of roses. Say anything, but be sure to say something complimentary. This done, it is only a natural thing for you to do to, desire to sink your nose deeper into the hair.

The moment you feel the tip of your nose touch the scalp, purse your lips and gently kiss, it is then but a few inches further to the ear.

Touch the rim of the ear with your lips in a sort of brushing motion. Breathe gently into the delicate shell. Some men and women react passionately to this subtle act. If not and they draw their head away, return to the hair and sniff luxuriously of it. Then settle back to her ear, murmuring "sweet, airy nothings" into it. From the ear to her neck is but another few inches.Let your lips traverse this distance quickly and into the nape and, with your lips well pursed, gently nip the skin there, using the same gentleness as would a cat lifting her precious kittens.

With a series of little gentle nips, bring your lips around from the nape of the neck to the curving, swerve of the jaw, close to her ear and gently kiss the ear lobes. But be sure to return to the tender softness of her jaw. From then on, the way should be clear to you.

Nuzzle your lips down the cheeks until you reach the comer of the lips. You will know when your kissing is working because, suddenly, you will feel a strange stiffening of your lovers shoulders. The reason for this is that the lips constitute one of the main erogenous zones of the body. The nerve ends in it are so sensitive that the slightest contact with them sends a pleasurable thrill immediately through the nervous system, through the medulla portion of the brain, back through the nervous system again, through branches which connect up with motor nerves, in this case the nerves that control the sphincter muscles of the mouth and lips, and the sexual glands.

Having subtly kissed the corner of the mouth. Don't hesitate. Push on to more pleasurable spots. Ahead of you lies that which had been promised in your dreams, the tender, luscious lips of the one you love. But don't sit idly by and watch them quivering. Act!

Lift your lips away slightly, centre them so that when you make contact there will be a perfect union. Then, like a sea-gull "swooping gracefully down through the air," bring your lips down firmly onto their lips and feel them quivering in your arms.

Kiss as though, at that moment, nothing else exists in the world. Kiss as though your entire life is wrapped up into the period of the kiss. Kiss as though there is nothing else that you would rather be doing.

There has been raised quite a few questions in regard to whether one should close one's eyes while kissing or while being kissed. Personally, I disagree with those who advise closed eyes. To me, there is an additional thrill in seeing, before my eyes, the drama of bliss and pleasure as it is played on the face of my beloved. I can see tiny wrinkles form at the comers of her eyes, wrinkles of joy. I can see fleeting spasms of happiness flit across the eyes. I can see these things and, in seeing them, my pleasurable reactions to the kiss are considerably heightened. In keeping my eyes open.

However, always be aware of what the the one your kissing are doing with their open eyes! If they are transfixed on you that's fine. But, if they seem to be gazing past you or flitting to the sides, beware! There intentions are not good. Someone who does this are subconsciously checking if someone is watching and definitely not to be trusted in the relationship and that's a very real fact!

A kiss is too rapturous a thing to be enjoyed for the moment and moment only. Linger longer on their lips than you have ever lingered before. Forget time. Forget everything but the kiss in which you are in the midst of. Don't be like that bashful young lover who, after a sweet, long kiss, drew his lips away from the lips of his charmer. Immediately, she burst out into tears.
"What's the matter?" he asked solicitously.
"You don't love me I" she said between sobs.
"But I do!"
"Then why did you draw your lips away?"
"I couldn't breathe," he said naively.
Breathe? Who wants to breathe, who even wants to think of breathing in the middle of a passionate kiss? Breathe through your nose if you have to breathe. But kiss, keep on kissing, as long as there is one minute of breath in you. Kiss.

It should be explained that the lips are not the only part of the mouth which should be joined in kissing. When kissing, there should be as many bodily contacts as possible.
Snuggle up closely together. Feel the warm touch of each other's bodies. Be so close that the rise and fall of each other's bosoms is felt by one another.

Don't be afraid to kiss with more than your lips. After your lips have been glued together for some time, open them slightly. Then let the tip of your tongue feel the smooth surface of their teeth. If they are wholly in accord with you, if they are truly your real love-mate, then you will notice that they too have opened their lips slightly and will also project the tip of their tongue so that it meets with the tip of yours.

Hot lava will run through your veins instead of blood. Your breath will come in short gasps. There will rise up in you an overpowering, overwhelming surge of emotion such as you have never before experienced. If you are a man, you will clutch the shoulders of your loved one and sense a shudder course through you that makes you pant. If you are a woman, and being kissed, you will feel a strange languor passing through your limbs, your entire body. A shudder will go through you. You will moan in the delicious transports of love. And, in all probabilities, you will go faint because the blood in your veins will be rushing furiously into your entire system and away from your head. Thus, you will be unable to think any longer. You will only be able to feel the most exquisite of pleasures consuming your entirety.

The French Kiss:

There is more to your tongue than merely its tip. Probe further. Go deeper. Gently caress each other's tongues. For, in doing this, you are merging your souls. That is why this kiss was called the "soul" kiss by the French who were said to be the first people to have perfected it, hence our modern term of 'french kissing'

Kisses cost nothing. So kiss on. There is one thing that you cannot take away from people and that is the ability to kiss and make love to each other. Through depressions, wars and diseases, people still kissed and made love when they pleased and as often as they pleased.

Now returning to the art of kissing, if you see your loved one's eyes close as though in a moment of weariness. Gently detach your lips and raise them up to their closed eyelids. Drop a gentle kiss, first on one eyelid and then on the other. Feel the rolling orb quiver under your lips. Then, when you have done this, run your lips down along the line of their nose, stopping at odd times to purse them into a tiny kiss. When you reach the wrinkle of their nostrils, bury your lips deeply into the curve and kiss little niblets into first one and then the other. If the eyes are still closed, repeat the process.
But always return to the lips. The little kisses that you have given on the eyes and nose serve only to vary the menu of love. They are but spice to the course of love's banquet which should always be the "lip kiss."

The Vacuum Kiss:

Here you start off by first opening your mouth a. trifle just after you have been kissing peacefully with closed lips. Indicate by brushing the teeth with the tip of your tongue, that you wish for your lover to do likewise. The moment they respond, instead of caressing their mouth, suck inward as though you were trying to draw out the innards of an orange.  If they know of this kiss variation, they will respond in the same way and withdraw the air from your mouth. In this fashion, in a very short while, the air will have been entirely drawn out of your mouths. Your lips will adhere so tightly that there will almost be pain, instead of pleasure. But it will be the sort of pain that is highly pleasurable. However, this lasts only a short time, there is too much strain on the delicate mouth tissues and the muscles tire very easily. However, there is a special technique to be used to terminate it. First open a comer of your mouth. You will hear a faint hissing sound when this is done. Immediately, you will find the pressure in your mouth lessens, the muscles relax and a delicious sense of physical and mental inactivity will creep over your body.

But that is not all, after releasing your lips, lift them away from the tired lips of your lover. Then gently, delicately, softly, sensitively, oh so lightly, lower your pursed lips and place a tiny little kiss into the almost bruised lips of your lover. It is this little act of sympathy and condolence that makes the tie between you all the more firm.

Of course the lips are not the only parts of a person that can be kissed and part of building a strong relationship in sexual terms is to experiment with each other to establish those parts that excite and stimulate your partner. As mentioned above, pain can be extremely pleasurable, especially in foreplay and love making if it is done in the right way. Little nips on the nape of the neck, shoulders, ears, lips, or indeed anywhere can be very erotic and propel your lover into absolute ecstasy.

Be brave and search all over the body and discover those special sweet spots that create rapturous pleasure.

Treat foreplay and love making as a multi course dinner. You wouldn't serve your loved one with the same plate of food for each course would you? It would be very boring and certainly not enticing. Variety is the spice of life and certainly true in romancing a loved one.

For instance, instead of the full on lip kissing, vary it by starting at one corner of the lips and gently brush across them and back again to a full kiss or rub the tip of your tongue gently across their lips while brushing their lips with yours. There are so many variations of this technique for you to experiment with.

We can all tease sometimes and a very effective lip kissing method uses this to its fullest and if done right will give both of you a truly intimate feeling that warms your bodies. Just as you are about to plant a kiss on your lovers lips, draw your head slightly back still holding your lips in readiness but do not kiss. Hold this position for as long as possible while smiling tantalizingly into your lovers eyes. Then when neither can stand the suspense any longer, lower your lips very slowly and while still gazing into their eyes, gently plant your kiss upon those avidly awaiting lips and let all that passion flow as you both get lost in the emotional rapture.

Have a Fab next date and all the best from the Fab Love team.

 

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